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Wednesday, December 20, 2017

Hiccups in Lovey Dovey Land

For my dearest of dear silly loyals, I've more story on Dude Three. 
Thanks for staying with me/us here.
I've also some erotica shortly. Afterall, big Santa is coming to town.
Love ya.

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   You know that giddy, giggly, sticky sweet feeling reminiscent of a teen hyped up on a gallon of Pop Rocks-infused Mountain Dew, having just scored front-row tickets to see the Monkees in concert? Yeah, me neither. It wasn’t like that. More, an unbelievably calm bliss. 
    I’d taken a wonderful trip to Greece. Now, a very sweet man and I were in lovey dovey land.  I was in deep, and (or do I mean “because”?) he was in deep. Too good to be true? I did wonder. I’d enjoy it regardless.
   There were hiccups. But that’s how it goes.
   Dude Three became distant and abrupt one day. This was only through messaging, though. We’d talk it out.  (Right?)

Dude: “Its crazy windy. We won’t be hiking!” (We’d planned a hike for that evening.)

He’s making decisions for us now? Me: “K.”

Dude: “Are you mad? You seem mad. Getting a weird vibe here.”

Me: “No. I'm just not going to argue or fight with you. I prefer your not making decisions for us, that’s all. Want to get out for a walk at least. I know you’re at work, honey. We’ll talk about it when you come over, okay? *sticky sweet GIF here*”

Dude: “Yes, we do need to talk. I feel like you’ve been mad at me all day and I haven’t done anything wrong. I’ll be honest, I might not come over.”

Whoa. I panicked. Me: “What just happened? I haven’t said anything blaming. You DIDN’T do anything wrong. I explained why I'm being brief. See the lovey thing I added. I can’t make you come over. But I’ll be extremely upset if you don’t. I'm already in deep. You have my heart. If you are going to run away when we have problems, this can’t work.”

Dude: “We’ll be okay. I want you and your heart. I’ll be over at 6pm.”

Would Dude Three and I be okay? 
To be continued.

38 comments:

  1. Sigh. Dude the Third is definitely showing signs of being Dude the Turd.

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    1. We shall see. Right? Right.
      You're the best of the best, EC.
      Thank you kindly.

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  2. That was the wrong way to word it, dude...

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  3. I agree with EC. He's making me nervous.

    Love,
    Janie

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  4. Robyn, speaking as a man ...wait a moment, have to check something...yes, speaking as a man, I must point out our default emotional alarm is that women are mad at us. We wish they didn't get so mad at us, and they probably don't but it's how we're wired. I've learned to dismiss the predilection, mostly, but many haven't. I'm sure your gentle humor and sincerity are more than equal to calming an insecure Three. Best wishes for success.

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    1. Funny because you dudes arrange for women to get mad at us, by, for example, acting like jerks sometimes, and then get mad and scared when we respond to it. Calmly. Hmmm. There's really no way to win the battle of the sexes, is there, Geo?

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    2. Oops, I meant "for women to get mad at you." But you knew that. =)
      Thanks for always being so kind and supportive, Geo.

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    3. Got it. And yes, you're right. I suspect women generally have a larger emotional range than men --which means the percentage of difference equals mens' ignorance of what women are feeling. I learned that from my daughter when she took a gender-studies class at UOP. Being male is being a simple mechanism, but I still love you.

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    4. I still love you too, Geo. And I like to say "For better and for worse, men are much simpler than women." We must be exasperating for you guys who want to meet our needs. Sheesh. I couldn't do it. Smiles.

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  5. Endless, endless, ENDLESS processing. That's what relationships are all about. ENDLESS, I tell you! lol

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    1. Yes, communication is everything. Right? Even when it's done without talking. Wink.

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  6. Gotta love texting. Can so be taken the wrong way. But with that, Dude 3 kinda has his head up a certain place if he thinks you sounded mad. Of course when women don't sound mad, that's usually the time to head for the hills lol

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    1. I'm laughing so hard it turned into a cackle. Great comment, Pat. I might have to add it to my final collage. Thank you.

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  7. OMG you can't leave us hanging!!!!! I am so hoping it worked out! Would he be mad if he knew you put your text convo on here though?

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    1. No, he doesn't read my blog. I am honest about that from the beginning. I never slander anyone here. It's all the truth. If it makes the men look bad, that's because they behave(d) badly.
      I'll keep the story going asap. Thanks, JoJo.

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  8. Well, everyone has an off day. There's times when Ray and I must just go to other rooms and by the next day communication is back in sync. I'm going to assume that is the case here. He was mad at something totally out of your realm and took it out text-wise on you. Fingers crossed that there are kisses under the mistletoe....TBC (yes you drive us crazy)

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    1. Thank you for your input on off days. I agree. And early in the relationship, there are communication and other hiccups. Sorry, though I'm flattered, that I drive you crazy.
      Enjoy, Joanne.

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  9. Men get emotionally rattled quite easily and overly sensitive, but usually aren't allowed to show it. Then they turn it inside and process it poorly and amplify it. And what Geo said. Things are looking a bit iffy, Robyn. I hope everything resolves as it should.

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    1. True, Jono. I didn't know there are men with thinner skin than I have. But there seem to be well more than one. Thank you, friend.

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  10. Uh oh. Sometimes if you hold your breath and count to ten, the hiccups go away. I hope this is just a temporary bump of miscommunication.

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    1. Good tip, Connie.
      I hope you're have a wonderful Xmas season.

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  11. I hope this relationship works out for you!!

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    1. We shall see, fishducky. Note that I'm writing two months-ish after the fact. Smiles.

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  12. Every good thing has bumps in the road. Guess that's just the way it goes :)

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    1. True. And it's also true that life is easier alone.
      Is easier better? Often it is; sometimes, maybe not. We shall see.
      =)
      Enjoy the season, dear Rosey.

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  13. And you, Ms Robyn, keep us hanging... :)

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    1. I'm glad I'm not boring you. Thus, I shall continue the suspense. I'm unsure how many more "to be continued" versions await.

      It's almost Christmas, and I hope you're in merry spirits, Sage.

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  14. Have a Merry Christmas Robyn. Lovey gifs should work, right? How many did he send back??

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    1. This time, none. But generally he and I send or sent (I'm not revealing this yet) lovey and hot-steamy gifs to each other many times a day. Too many to count.

      Thank you, Dolorah, and a very Merry Christmas to you.

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  15. You. Must. Stop. Doing. This. LOL You've left us hanging again! Ah well, something to look forward to. I hope you got together and had a good talk!

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    1. And with only one week-ish to get so much in, I'm afraid I'll keep hitting you with these TBCs (to be continued). Sorry, Martha.

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  16. Ughhhh....I hate it when a man(or a woman) Places their angst onto the other and make it be his or her fault when it is all about their issues. He did just that! This pisses me off because it put you right away in the defensive where you felt you had to explain yourself and he did squat! I hope he ate humble pie and grovelled later for your sake.

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  17. I am very, VERY happy to tell you that I do NOT know that giddy, giggly, sticky sweet feeling reminiscent of a teen hyped up on a gallon of Pop Rocks-infused Mountain Dew.

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  18. Hey Robyn.
    I've been away for a few weeks, so now I'm back to catch up on the story, in chronological order!
    Doesn't sound promising.
    GULP

    Hope you had a great break/time over Christmas anyway.

    xo

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